Increase Self-Belief With Visualisation

Increase Self-Belief With Visualisation

When you are confident about yourself and have 100% belief in your actions, it goes a long way in you moving up the ladder in life. Before taking any important decision in your life, you always wonder, what others would think of you if you don’t succeed, don’t you? Instead, it is more important to analyse how much you trust yourself with that particular decision. If you are convinced that what you are doing is right, you don’t have to justify yourself to anybody. It’s a wonderful feeling to feel very confident about your life. However, did you know that the way you think had the power to increase your self-belief?

The art of visualisation is very powerful for boosting self-confidence, according to motivational speakers and experts. When you see yourself in a particular position talking confidently to a group of people, there is a very high probability for you to believe that you can climb greater heights than before. Having a clear view of the big picture and being able to put yourself there, increases your chances of success. Here are some ways in which you can use visualisation to improve your self-confidence or self-belief.

  1. Put yourself in where you want to be in a few years

If you are a small boy who aspires to become a pilot when he grows up, you need to visualise yourself wearing the smart uniform of a pilot, flying a plane amidst turbulent weather and taking the passengers safely to their respective destinations. Imagine talking to the control rook about instructions and also have mental talks with your co-pilot on how you are going to plan your flight for the day. Visualise yourself living your life in a suitcase, travelling to different countries and living a busy but satisfying life. As you keep visualising, the urge to reach that position increases within you, and it will automatically boost your self-confidence.

  • Put yourself in your role model’s position

Are you a young cricketer who dreams of representing his country one day? Is Sachin Tendulkar your role model? You would have obviously watched his matches and techniques, but have you watched his body language closely? Watch out how he walks into the stand to the deafening noise of thousands of people chanting, “Sachin. Sachin..”. How does he conduct himself on and off the field? How does he interact with senior cricketers, media and everybody else? How does he react when his team loses? These are some of the points you have to follow. Now put yourself in the position of your role model. Change your body language and techniques to match of that your role model or father-figure. When you visualise yourself in a successful position, you are sure to build more confidence in yourself.

In short, visualisation is the technique of seeing the big picture and also putting yourself in the frame of the picture. This way, you can foresee the success that you are bound to experience many years later. When you imagine yourself as the next Sachin Tendulkar, you will only start working harder than ever to chase your dreams, with an increased belief in yourself.


5 Hacks To Boost Your Confidence Today

5 Hacks To Boost Your Confidence Today

Having self-confidence will give you not only success in your endeavours but also respect from your peers, counterparts, subordinates and superiors. When you have a lot of self-belief, you will enjoy lots of success in your personal and professional lives. When you fail in the target that you have set for yourself, it impacts your confidence to a great extent. It does take a lot of time to start getting a person in believing in him again after he has had a bad experience. Here are 5 simple but effective hacks that you can try to improve your self-confidence and self-belief.

  1. Personal grooming

One of the most simple but powerful tips to boost your confidence is to dress up well and be well-groomed, wherever you go. Wear smart formals to the office and ensures that your clothes are well-matched without a wrinkle on them. When you dress smartly, you automatically start to feel confident about yourself.

  • Perfect your breathing

Life will give many opportunities to feel stressed, nervous and anxious. You should be careful that you never succumb to these pressures.  If you believe in your abilities, you won’t bow down to these nervous situations. All you need to do at this stage is to practise simple breathing exercises. When you feel bogged down, upset or nervous, take a break from your work and relax well through breathing in and your heart. Calm down the palpitations that race from your heart and knock your eardrums down. Once you have calmed down, think about the situation and take appropriate decisions. When you are calm, you are more likely than before to take the right decisions. With more right decisions come more success, thereby improving your self-confidence to a large extent.

  • Motivational pep-talks

When you feel a low phase, look into the mirror and give yourself a pep-talk. Remind yourself of your potential and few incidents from the past where you did a commendable job. Appreciate yourself for achieving your goals within the allocated timeline. List down your strengths and tell yourself why you are the best man to do the job. These small, pep –talks go a long way in increasing your self-belief.

  • Improve your body language

Start walking upright and always look into the eyes of the person/people you are speaking to. When you are addressing a gathering, spread your arms wide while speaking, as this will make you look confident and approachable at the same time. Work on your stage presence and have eye contact with all the people in the gathering, when you speak. You also need to sound bold and clear if you want to be audible to everyone hearing you.

  • Move away from negativity

An important tip to remain self-confident is to stay away from negativity. If your friends or colleagues keep doubting your beliefs and tell you not to push yourself too hard to achieve your objectives, you need to stay away from them. Like positivity, negativity too is contagious. Their negative vibes might dampen the energising thoughts in your mind. Stay with people who are creative, confident about their actions and always learning something new in their lives to become better people.


3 Confidence-building exercises

3 Confidence-building exercises

At times, life presents us with some situations that are a severe jolt to our self-confidence and belief. While we all want to sulk in our lives and feel sorry for the things we haven’t achieved, not many of us have the insight to see the silver lining that is hidden between the dark clouds. Having a big-picture view is very important to boost your confidence. Simple exercise such as a change in your body language, your tone and your smile can boost your confidence to a great extent. Here, let us see 3 simple confidence-building exercises that teach us important lessons in life.

  1. Count your blessings

No, we are not getting philosophical here! What we are trying to tell you is that when things aren’t happening the way you wanted or planned, you shouldn’t succumb to that situation. Yes, failures are worrisome situations, but you need to train your mind to think positively and be grateful for what you have been provided with.  Is your business not generating enough money? Be grateful that you had a chance to chase your dreams.  Are your parents not convinced with your career choice? Be grateful that you have parents.

You see what we mean? When you start counting your blessings, it makes you feel grateful for what you have and removes the negativity in your mind. When negativity exits, confidence automatically makes an entry inside you.

  • Work-life balance

Regardless of your profession and your designation, you need to maintain a proper work-life balance at all times to remain confident and happy. Ensure that you spend enough time with your family and loved ones on weekends. Have some “me-time” as well during these days. When your personal life is happy, it reflects on your professional life as well.

On the contrary, when you keep sulking, you tend to fail at both. Relationships break because of your inability to maintain them, and this can impact your self-belief and confidence to a large extent. This is why it is essential to switch off from work and stress when you are not working.

  • Change in body language

Maintain eye contact even when you are talking to people above your cadre. This tells them that you are sure about your opinions and that you are not a person who shies away from voicing them out. When you are meeting new people, extend your hand warmly and have a genuine smile on your face. Never look at them quizzically with your hands in your pockets. If you are addressing a group of people in your office, try out a few power poses such as leaning forward while placing your hands on the table, addressing them with arms spread out, with arms at your hips, sitting with your hands behind your head in a chair, etc. These are poses that spell class and confidence, thereby making you fit and worthy of being a leader.

Yes, we do agree that these are easier said than done. However, it is important for you to take an effort and try these exercises regularly to improve your confidence.


Build a personal effective system and you will always win

Build a personal effective system and you will always win

It’s quite surprising to learn that the vast majority of lottery winners end up as broke as when they started. I know this is a shocking statistic, but the vast majority of people who win the lottery end up in worse financial shape than before they won the lottery.

How can this be? Well, it doesn’t really matter how many millions of dollars pass through your hands. If you don’t know what to do with that money, you’re just wasting your time.

It is no surprise that a lot of lottery winners end up getting a lot of money to fund their very worst instincts. For example, if somebody has an addiction problem, getting their hands on millions of dollars or British pounds can make the problem even worse.

In fact, in one notorious case out of the United Kingdom, a person who won several million pounds ended up blowing all that money on cocaine and prostitutes. My point here is that success is not based on the money that enters your life.

Success is all about the change in character that you go through that enables money to not only enter your life but stay in it. For this to happen, you have to adopt the right habits. You can’t just hang on to your old way of thinking.

This is where a lot of people who just “lucked into” their great fortune fail. There are many people who lucked into millions of dollars during the craze of the early 2000’s. A lot of those people are struggling now.

There are a lot of people who made millions of dollars when iPhone apps became very popular. A lot of them are bankrupt today. The reason is because they did not develop a personal effectiveness system as far as their money is concerned.

You have to have a system. You can’t just expect for things to happen out of raw intuition or hunches. If you try to do things that way, chances are you will end up making the wrong move more often than making the right call. The odds are not in your favor.

You should focus instead on becoming the right kind of person to achieve your dreams. If you are struggling in any way, shape or form in any area of your life, please understand that it’s not the fault of other people. It’s definitely not the fault of any situation outside of your control.

I know it’s unpleasant to hear, but this is one truth that you need to hear: It’s all your fault. Take ownership. Understand that you’re the only person that can make real changes in your life. You have to take this responsibility.

This is why you need to build a system that increases your personal effectiveness. It’s not a series of hacks. It’s not a string of hunches. It definitely has nothing to do with being lucky. You have to build a system. This means adopting the right habits, having a clear understanding of what you’re doing and, most importantly, having a clear view of the consequences of your decisions.

This is all rooted in the understanding of the power of your ability to make decisions. If you’re able to do that, then you’re going to be able to call the shots as far as your life is concerned. As you probably already know, the results of your life are a flow from your choices.

Put in another way, change your choices and you change your life. To get a clear practical framework on how to do this, click here.


Every failure is a victory in disguise

Every failure is a victory in disguise

I know this is going to be a very unpopular lesson. After all, it’s very unwelcome. A lot of people think that failure is something to be avoided. In fact, a lot of people are paranoid about failure. They’re so scared of it, they don’t even try.

Well, what if I told you that the more you give in to your fear of failure, the more you will fail? Why? Well, the fact that you are not achieving the kind of result that you want for yourself right here, right now, is a form of failure.

You have these big dreams. You have these amazing visions that you have set out for yourself. Every single day that passes without you working towards those big dreams is a waste of day. That is a failure.

Unfortunately, if you allow yourself to remain fearful of failing, you’re not going to take action. You’re not going to take the necessary, bold sacrifices that you need that will take you closer and closer to victory.

Now you may be thinking, “Okay, I can decide to start today.” Good. But you’re terrified of not getting the results that you’re expecting. The possibility that something could go wrong freezes you in your tracks.

This really is too bad because every set back or challenge you encounter along the way to victory is a victory in disguise. You have to look at your attitude towards challenges. A lot of people think that they have failed when the things that they assume or expected did not materialize. They think that that is the end of the game.

That’s not true. If things don’t pan out the way you expected, this means that there are certain problems that you need to solve. These are not problems that are debilitating. These are not problems that indicate that you are dumb or there’s something fundamentally wrong with you.

Instead, these are problems that just need solutions. This is an opportunity because the more you solve your problems, the smarter you get. You become more of an expert. You become more capable.

Also, when more challenges appear, you don’t fold like a house of cards. Instead, you’re able to take it and take it until you achieve success. That is victory.

Understand that each failure or setback is actually an opportunity. You not only learn how to fix problems and see things that you may have not seen before. You may also be able to change your personal character.

Maybe you’re impatient. Maybe you’re a very short term figure. Maybe you can’t see the forest from the trees. Whatever it is you’re struggling with, look at the challenges that you face as the solutions to the character issues that may be holding you back.

I know that this is a cold comfort for many people. Still, if you understand that you stand to gain victory by learning more about yourself and pushing yourself, you can position yourself for greater victories in the future.

This is how you can turn your fear of failure into a tremendous opportunity. Even if a failure has happened, you don’t have to stay on the floor. You don’t have to allow yourself to get knocked down by staying down.

Get back up, spring back up and go for it again and again. Sure you would get knocked down over and over, but guess what? The more you resolve to fix the problem once and for all, the faster you will spring up from the ground and the sooner you will be able to solve that problem.

Take this opportunity. To learn how to turn every failure into a victory, click here.


Every baby step forward you take is a victory

Every baby step forward you take is a victory

One of the most common assumptions people make about success is that it’s supposed to be big. It’s supposed to be something that is bold, dramatic and substantial. They feel that big victories have to be

large. In fact, so many people believe that it has to be larger than life itself.

There’s a lot of drama in a spectacular victory and it really is sad when people believe this because they end up robbing themselves of the ability to achieve such victories. How come?

Well, when you actually put in the work towards a goal, it may well turn out that your outcomes are incremental. In fact, they can be so incremental that you can’t even detect them. They’re that small. It’s not unusual for people who find themselves in this situation to think that the progress that they’re making is simply not worth it.

They say that they’re giving up so much and putting in so much time, effort and energy only to have such inconsequential results. The more they think about this, the more discouraged they become. Eventually, it’s only a matter of time until they lose hope. They end up quitting.

Let me tell you, the only way to lose in anything in life is to quit and that’s precisely the kind of situation you’re setting up for yourself when you expect big victories. You should look at this from a different perspective. You should reduce your scale. You should zero in on what you’re doing at that precise point in your journey towards ultimate success.

In other words, look at what you’re actually achieving. If it’s slightly different from where you started, chalk it up to victory. Log it as a big win.

It may not be as grand or dramatic as you had hoped, but it’s still a step forward. The bottom line is simple: every baby step forward you take is still a step forward. Let’s put it this way, it’s better than when you started.

Sure you may only be a couple of inches away from your starting point, but you’re still further ahead in the journey. Given enough time, there will be more and more distance. Again, even if you are making progress at the rate of a few inches everyday, you’re still distancing yourself from your starting point.

It’s only a matter of time until you see a large enough change from where you are with where you started. Don’t rob yourself of the emotional urgency you need to keep pushing forward by expecting big things.

Let me tell you, the first time you swing that bat, don’t expect a home run. Don’t even expect a hit. Just keep swinging that bat. Perfect your form. Eventually, you will hit the ball and you will get better and better. That’s how life works.

When you set up impossible conditions for yourself, you become a victim of your own expectations. You expect yourself to bolt out of that gate like a Kentucky Derby winner. Life doesn’t work that way. Sometimes, victory is measured in inches. Be happy with that.

Understand that a baby step forward is something you can build on. It’s something that is a summary of all the lessons you have learned. You can scale up these lessons. You can build on them. They’re building blocks to greater and greater success.

If your ultimate victory involves thousands of miles, you can bet that the hard lessons that you learn in the painful first few inches of that journey will teach you a thing or two about the rest of the skill sets you need to adopt. Things will get better and better.

It’s really all about achieving momentum but you have to start. Don’t rob yourself of victory by assuming that you are somehow entitled to amazing results the first time around. Sometimes, you have to make several attempts for you to achieve substantial results. Be willing to pay that price. Be willing to go the whole nine yards.

To learn how to turn every baby step forward into a practical victory, click here.


Achieve more by working purposefully

Achieve more by working purposefully

Have you ever found yourself at work chasing your tail? I’m not talking about literally chasing your backside. I’m talking about small stuff day in, day out, all day, everyday and your life doesn’t change.

I’m telling you, even if you’re the most efficient email responder in the world, your life is probably not going to change unless, of course, there’s something fundamentally important about those emails, you are essentially just doing ministerial stuff on a day to day basis.

The sad reality is that a lot of these things that we find enjoyable are also the most inconsequential stuff. For example, checking your Facebook updates and notifications may be a lot of fun. But if instead of reading your textbook or doing your assignment, you waste your time on social media updates and emails, your life is probably not going to go where you want it to go.

You’re probably not going to achieve much of a breakthrough in that midterm or finals exam you’re studying for. The same applies to your relationships and this definitely applies to your work. Focus on what’s important.

Unfortunately, a lot of people think that they should focus more on what’s pleasant. They are under the impression that they should devote a tremendous amount of time on things that are convenient.

Well, here’s the problem. If everybody approached life that way, most people will be making minimum wage. If given a choice, most people would rather do the most pleasant and least time consuming stuff. In most cases, most people would rather do things that don’t take much effort or energy.

This is human nature. I really can’t blame them for thinking this way. After all, it’s hard wired into the human condition that we take the path of least resistance.

Unfortunately, if you did that, you’re not going to set yourself up for getting much of life’s rewards. The reason why lawyers, doctors, medical professionals and top level executives make so much money is because they have to pay a high price and go through quite an ordeal to get the knowledge that they have.

This requires sacrifice, not doing things that are quick, easy and pleasurable in favor of things that are unpleasant, inconvenient and are downright annoying. But if you’re able to do that day after day, week after week, month after month, eventually, you get to where you need to go and the rewards come. That’s how life works.

Unfortunately, if you refuse to work with a sense of purpose, it’s so easy to just continue to do stuff that really doesn’t matter. Sure it’s a lot of fun to check your email. It’s good to know what other people are up to on your Facebook friend list. But at the end of the day, none of that stuff really matters.

What matters is whether you are putting in purposeful work to the big goals in your life and the best way to do this is to work purposefully. In other words, you zero in on the big vision you have for yourself and you allow that vision to give you the inspiration, sense of urgency and the emotional power you need to focus on what you need to do to get to where you need to go.

This can take a long time. This is why a lot of people are not up to the journey. They fold. They lose motivation. What’s really happening is that they missed the forest for the trees. They focused only on what’s in front of them and they lose sight of the big picture.

If you don’t want this to happen to you and you want to tap the power of working with purpose, click here.


What does your work say about you?

What does your work say about you?

When you meet somebody new, the first thing you probably think about is what their clothes say about them. You might even pay attention to the way they speak, what they choose to talk about and their facial expressions. You might even notice their body language.

Based on all these signals, both verbal and non-verbal, you can kind of come up with some sort of conclusion on what this person’s about and what kind of person they are.

This is not unusual. This is how most people read each other. This is how most people make judgments about each other.

If you think that people don’t make character judgments, you are sadly mistaken. In fact, you may be setting yourself up for a nasty let down at some point in the future. People do this all the time.

Well, here’s the thing. If you think that personal judgments are restricted to the things people wear or how much money people have in the bank or the kind of cars they drive, you are not seeing the big picture. In fact, you are looking at insignificant details.

What if I told you that somebody can be dressed in rags and can still be a future millionaire? What if I told you that somebody can look like the worst kind of bum but still be life’s biggest winner in a short period of time?

You might think I’m crazy or unrealistic. Well, think again. The truth is you only need to look at people’s work products to see where they’re going because the work you produce says volumes about who you are, and most importantly, who you think you are.

The vast majority of people continue to struggle in their professional and financial lives because they think that the results that they produce don’t really matter. They think that the work that they do is just one insignificant portion of their total identity.

This is where they screw up. Let’s face it, the world doesn’t care about your feelings. It doesn’t care about your motivation and it seriously disregards your potential. How come?

Everybody’s got potential. Everybody’s got emotions and feelings. What the world pays attention to are your results. These are the things that you actually do. These are the things that you actually say. These are the things that matter.

When you change your actions, you change your personal reality. Unfortunately, this is the last thing people look at when they try to define their character or try to communicate who they are to the greater world.

They try to do this through fashion. They try to do this with the way they talk. They try to do this with what they choose to talk about.

If you want to be taken seriously and if you want to become a more effective person, focus on your work product. Focus on whether you show up to work on time. Focus on whether you do whatever it takes to achieve the kind of success that you want for yourself.

Everything else is basically fluff. Everything else are basically inconsequential details. Because ultimately, the most honest indication of what you’re capable of and where you’re headed in life is your work product. Change that and you change your destiny. To get a practical guide on how to do this on a day to day basis, click here


Become more effective by taking things more personally

Become more effective by taking things more personally

How many times have you been told that you should not take things personally? How many times have you been told that at the end of the day, things don’t really matter? Our world is a product of forces we can’t control. There’s just something out there that’s far bigger than us and there’s really no point in trying.

Well, if you come across this type of thinking, please understand that the moment you believe them is the moment you rob yourself of personal power. The reason why so many people struggle with success is because they haven’t taken their life more personally.

They have an impersonal viewpoint in their life. They look at themselves as pieces of plastic on the surface of a raging sea. They really don’t have any control over where they’re going. They definitely don’t give themselves a sense of control over the way things are turning out in their lives.

They feel that they’re just a passenger in the long car journey of their personal lives. This really is too bad because if you think about it, if you want to go to where you want to go, you should at least bother to position yourself in the driver’s seat. You should at least take the effort to try to turn that steering wheel to the direction you want your life to go.

Sadly, too many of us have simply given up. Too many of us have simply said  that there’s really nothing they can do so they take a very impersonal view of their lives. Instead, they focus on the small stuff.

They focus on what’s on YouTube. They focus on garbage in social media. They come up with a million and one reasons to take their minds off the things that truly matter.

If you want to turn your life around and achieve the kind of reality you think is essentially cut off from you, you have to step up. You have to say to yourself that you are the owner of your life. You are responsible for your life.

Nobody will take that responsibility. Everybody’s got enough problems of their own. Sure you may come across people in your romantic life who would say to you that you complete them. You would come across people who would say to you that you give them meaning.

But ultimately, they have to take care of #1. They have to take care of themselves first. You can’t rely on those people to do something that you should be doing for yourself. This involves self love and self respect.

How can you love others when you can’t even love yourself? How can you expect others to do something for you that you won’t do for yourself?

This is why it’s really important to take ownership of your life. Make it personal. If you’re struggling in any area of your life, it is worth your time to focus on that area. It is worth your time to put in the time, effort and energy to figure out what’s going on so you can get better results.

This is not going to go away by itself. This is not going to go away anytime soon if you don’t put in the right amount of time and focus. You have to do it. Take ownership today.

If this idea makes sense to you, click here for a practical guide on how you can take full ownership of your life. Be in the driver’s seat of your life instead of constantly being the person last to know.


Personal pride can push your personal effectiveness upward and out

Personal pride can push your personal effectiveness upward and out

Usually, when people talk about pride, they often frame it in negative terms. As the old saying goes, we shouldn’t be proud because pride comes before the fall. How many times have you heard of people celebrating the bad karma of somebody who is very arrogant or prideful?

It’s not unusual for most people to view pride in negative terms. They think of somebody unreasonable, someone who’s a bully or somebody who’s basically a jerk. But believe it or not, pride can actually make you a better person.

I’m not talking about the sensitive, touchy kind of pride where you take offense when you feel when people don’t give you the respect that you think you deserve. I’m not talking about that kind of pride. That kind of pride is worthless in my opinion.

Instead, the pride that I’m talking about involves pride in your work. It involves the connection between the things that you choose to do with your time and who you are as a person. This definition of pride connects the dots between the output that you produce and the value system that you use to produce it.

Make no mistake. Everything external about you is a reflection of your internal truths. The way you dress, your haircut, the way you talk, the way you carry yourself and yes, most importantly, the quality of your work are reflections of your values as a person.

If you take pride in the work you do, it’s going to show. You’re not going to show up to work late. You’re not going to put in very little effort. You’re not just going to waste your time at work just enough to collect a paycheck. Instead, you’re going to do whatever it takes or however long it takes to produce maximum value in the lives of people depending on you. Why would you do this?

Well, you understand  that this is a reflection of who you are as a person. That whatever output you produce with your efforts is a reflection of your quality as a person. That is real pride. If you use that kind of pride, you become a more effective person across the board.

You not only become more knowledgeable. You become more authoritative, efficient and yes, more effective. This is how you earn more money. This is how you command greater respect. This is how you live a more substantive and substantial life. It is all based on the concept of pride.

It’s kind of like having a personal brand. When you buy a bag and it has a Hermes logo on it, you have certain expectations. You know full well that chances are high that that bag is not going to fall apart the moment you buy it. Chances are it’s going to be of the utmost quality and reliability. After all, it has the Hermes brand.

Well, look at your personal pride as your personal brand. When people see your work product, they see your brand. When people see how you talk and how you treat other people and how you carry yourself, they see your personal brand. That is the pride that I’m talking about.

Personal pride can help you become a more effective and successful person. It doesn’t matter what you’re struggling with in the here and now. Use the power of personal pride to take things to a whole other level.

To get some practical tips on how to do this, click here.